What To Say When You Talk To Yourself Part 3: How Our Mind Controls Our Success Or Failure


The Bam Bam Martial Arts Academy Mental Jiu-Jitsu Series

What To Say When You Talk To Yourself: Powerful New Techniques To Program Your Potential For Success – Study Guide Chapters 7-9:

“How Our Mind Controls Our Success Or Failure”

“A Brick Wall Of Bad Programming” Most of us have been hearing negative things in our young lives like: “you’re lazy”, “you never try”, “you can’t do that”, “you’ll never amount to anything”, and so on.

When we hear these negative things all the time, we start to believe them! But imagine if our minds were programmed with positive messages about the things we could do, not what we couldn’t. We would start to believe that we could accomplish a lot.

FACT: OUR ACTIONS PRODUCE OUR RESULTS. The things we do have a direct impact on our success or failure. But why do we do the things we do?

Our actions are the product of our feelings, attitudes, and beliefs. Whatever you believe about yourself affects what you do. But where do our beliefs come from? “It all starts with our programming. What we have accepted from the outside world or fed to ourselves.” It is our mental programming that sets up our beliefs.


So if you want to be successful you have to manage your mental programming and an important way we do that is managing our self-talk.

What are the four main levels of self-talk?

1. Negative Acceptance (“I can’t quit smoking”). This is the WORST form of self-talk because you have accepted something negative about yourself.

2. Recognition (“I should quit smoking”) This is a little better but still BAD. This is where you see a problem but you don’t decide to fix it.

3. Decision To Change (“I never smoke anymore”) This is GOOD. You not only recognize the need to change but you decide to do something about it.

4. The Better You (“I am a disciplined person”) This is the BEST form of self-talk. State your IDEAL SELF in the present tense, giving your mind the ideal image.

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Father of eight, Dr. Scott Sullivan is the chief instructor at Bam Bam Martial Arts in Houston, TX. He holds a doctorate in philosophy from the University of St. Thomas and is a seasoned martial arts instructor with over 30 years of experience. A firm believer that martial arts really does help people become more fit, safe, and happy, he remains vigilant about helping people improve their lives through martial arts.